Below are my tips for a fabulous day (no guarantees it will be as fabulous as mine was... Are you married? I hope you feel the same way about your wedding!).
1. Spread it out. After we got engaged, we made "The Spanish-Canadian Wedding Merger Document". This crazy spreadsheet details cultural and family traditions and expectations. I would suggest doing this even if you´re from the same country. Or town. Knowing what the other was expecting helped the planning go smoothly: In Tall Guy´s case, I had no idea 30 canapes per person was the norm in Spain. He had no idea about programmes. (In the end, we went with nine canapes and bilingual programmes. Win-win).
2. You can plan a wedding without themes and colours. I didn´t choose either, and it was all ok, despite what the reception-planner implied - no, the world did not end because I didn´t know my "colours" seven months in advance. The bridesmaids choose their dresses (lavender), which gave me the colour scheme - lavender and ivory, and the theme (garden party) just sort of happened - we used a lot of flowers, lanterns, birds and bunting to decorate.
3. Make stuff, but not too much.
- I made the bunting. Twice, actually. It´s bilingual - on one side it says "congratulations" and on the other, "felicidades". The first time it said "congratulations" and "sedadicilef". Welcome to the family, Tall Guy - sedadicilef! Nice.
- My mom and I made pew
bowsfascinators from Dollarama flowers and ribbon.
- My mom made the cake topper. Isn´t it grand?
- My mom, Sailor Girl (the best maid of honour in the world) and I made the favours - mini macaroons and brownies, my fave and Tall Guy´s fave.
- Music Man designed the programmes, also bilingual.
- We made a seating chart using an old frame that was a steal at $2 from a Sally Ann shop.
- I jazzed up my shoes. Sorry, boring white shoes are just not me. I needed some bling, and this post inspired me.
4. Do not give out tiny ceramic statues of the two of you as a favour, even if you painted them yourself.
5. Go with your gut feeling. If you want something that is not on-trend, and you don´t want something everyone else is doing, do what you want! I wanted purple carnations for the bouquets and decorations. Carnations are the flower of Spain, and I like them. And I wanted purple. Do I care that all the girls who have purple dresses have green flowers? Not a whit. Somehow, I ended up ordering green flowers. And then I thought, no. I really do not want green flowers. So I went back and ordered purple. And as you can see, they were gorgeous, and they were the right choice for us. Tall Guy was touched that I knew carnations were the national flower of Spain (touched, and enlightened, as I am not sure he knew that before...) and Sailor Girl was touched because purple is her favourite colour.
9. Eat something before the service. A wise woman I know suggested having a buffet available at home all morning to make sure everyone got something to eat before the service. This was a great idea - no one fainted.
I´ve saved the best tip for last:
10. Savour it. This is the best piece of advice I received and the best I can give, and is also my word of the year. The day passed by quickly, but I was there in the moment the whole time, enjoying everything. A wedding is the start to a whole new chapter in life - a marriage. That´s something worth remembering.
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